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Orgasm Question for Women  

astute2r3 68M
85 posts
10/22/2018 1:31 pm
Orgasm Question for Women


Reading that some women elect and or choose to "fake orgasm" I was pondering as to "WHY" some women have Great, Hard, Muscle Spasm Wrenching Orgasms, while others seem to have trouble reaching orgasm all together? I understand that the largest sexual organ is the brain and mental is a huge factor to consider, however, I would like to read what the Mature Adult Women, do have to share about the matter.

astute2r3 68M

10/22/2018 1:34 pm

I personally wish that every woman could enjoy the physical / mental sensations and pleasures that come with a good orgasm!


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
10/22/2018 1:50 pm

The decrease in estrogen after menopause can affect how long it may take to climax. Add medications - like for high blood pressure or anti-depressants and you have another culprit.

I tell my partners up front that I am orgasmically challenged. I tell them not to ask me if I came cuz I'll tell them the truth. I don't fake it. Even without an orgasm, there is a lot of pleasure in sexual activity.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


Freeonereturns 63F

10/22/2018 3:12 pm

To fake it is a pass out of what's going on. It can be mood of either or getting sore or tired. Many see it as kinder then asking a guy to stop. As surely the next thing is him asking why. We're if she fakes it he thinks he did good and she gets what she wants at that moment.

I feel if you're in a relationship then you should be able to find what gets her ready and also off. Hopefully it's something you also enjoy, then it's all good. If you think your girl is mailing it in then put aside the macho stuff and strike up a conversation about it, but maybe not at the time you've just tried. Explain getting her off is important to you and you're willing to try whatever she thinks that might work. (I got my livingroom painted one time using that) lol, just kidding.

But more of this, slower at that and harder when you do the other thing. All can lead to bliss.


RacingQueen913 58F
112 posts
10/22/2018 3:14 pm

Could be medicine, could be a new partner and you have trouble relaxing enough, could be a woman that has trouble communicating what works and doesn't, maybe feels self conscience about her body... ptsd about a situation in the past... best thing to do is to talk about it kindly and make her feel ok to not fake, just be her.


houstonnewsissy 36T
15 posts
10/22/2018 3:36 pm

Out of curiosity does anyone feel the mental component has a role in orgasm intensity and ease? The right chemistry, setting, situation maybe adds to it all?


Coupleinacloset 65M/59F

10/22/2018 4:05 pm

I agree that there is a lot of pleasure in sex without orgasm.

"Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety" Shakespeare


Funjm314 56M/51F

10/22/2018 4:59 pm

Why fake anything, as far as intensity,, done right its explosive everytime


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
10/22/2018 7:57 pm

Men seem to take offense if women do not appear to have intense, vocal orgasms. Is it an affront to their masculinity, their sexual prowess? I think women may fake or be louder or more boisterous than they would naturally be to boost a man’s ego. Can we blame it on porn, giving unrealistic expectations of what sex should be like for a everyone, every time?

If a woman is satisfied and not feeling frustrated, what difference does it make? Sometimes it just feels good to be physically intimate with someone without orgasm, I can’t speak for all women, but I generally have no idea why, with the same type of stimulation I orgasm or not, I also am never opposed to taking matters in my own hand (or bring out a toy) if that will help things along.

Also, keep in mind, every orgasm is not alike. All women do not react in the same way to sexual stimulation.

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


astute2r3 replies on 10/30/2018 1:13 pm:
Thanks for sharing, as I am not sure who and or whom should be blamed for not reaching or not giving properly. But knowing, as I also concur with realizing that some form of pleasure and fun can be and at times is enjoyed, is relevant to some degree. The mental can have a profound effect on the physical, in many different forms. I believe that more articulation about the issue, could be beneficial, "IF" one cares at all and desires more.

nafurescandy 53F
30 posts
10/23/2018 12:58 am

Well considering 70-90% of women dont orgasm from penetration alone its not surprising. Ive read its all about the clit and the majority of them are too far away to be stimulated during penetration. There are still men that dont know how important that is. Ive faked it during both oral and penetration. Oral because they were just bad and i wanted it to end. And penetration because I didnt want them to feel bad and I did actually enjoy it even without.


astute2r3 replies on 10/30/2018 1:05 pm:
Knew it existed, but did not know that the percentage was so high! I can understand how something bad and or once you realize the actual experience, noted it was bad and it was no longer wanted, so faking seemed like an obvious way out so to speak, to keep ego's in tact and general moral up beat. Glad to read that there is and or was some form of pleasures to be acknowledged, versus none at all. Wish there was more interest in mutual shared pleasures and those whom took the time to better themselves. Thanks for sharing!

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
10/23/2018 4:01 am

Reading that some women elect and or choose to "fake orgasm" ..... That would be their choice. No need to concern yourself with "Why they do that", ...they just do for whatever reason.

The only time you might need to be concerned is when you want to see her again. If not... then so what if she fakes it.

some women have Great, Hard, Muscle Spasm Wrenching Orgasms, while others seem to have trouble reaching orgasm all together?... Their body. That's how it works.

I understand that the largest sexual organ is the brain..... Not really.... I mean to say that, is a general cop out. You can just as well say, the largest eye ball is the brain. Or the largest ear , is the brain.

The brain holds data . Data that lets you know when you're aroused or repelled.

You have fingers, toes, a tongue, a penis /a vagina.... that's your sex equipment. Forget about the pussies that say the largest sexual organ is the brain. They're likely trying to hide the fact they are not physically desirable.


astute2r3 68M

10/23/2018 7:27 am

Thank You! to all those women whom have shared their own experience, knowledge and wisdom. As a man whom is compassionate about my partners pleasure, enjoyment and satisfaction, as I feel certain that there are many real men whom feel the same, your information is relevant. I understand the consideration given by women, to those whom feel it is necessary to appease and or satisfy the male ego at times, in hopes to keep any unwanted trauma at bay. Also noted, is that "some real men" do care and with verbal communication, can promote improvements, if so desired.


missthee 58F  
4511 posts
2/15/2019 5:43 pm

"I understand that the largest sexual organ is the brain."

Metaphorically speaking, or a scientific fact?

My thoughts on the matter...

The brain retains memories of sensations. If one wants to relive or recreate a pleasurable sensation, then I can understand how the brain is involved - guiding the body and its sensations towards that which the brain recognizes/labels as 'pleasure' or 'orgasm.' We feel what we (the body) feel, but it's the brain that interprets evaluates and categorizes what we feel.

Let me explain. I have a female friend, married for 20+ years, who thought she had never had an orgasm from sex with her husband. Until she recently tried a sex toy for the first time. She got a wand vibrator and had an orgasm the 'manual' way. Then she realized that yes, she had experienced orgasms during sex, but she didn't think of what she was experiencing as an 'orgasm.'


astute2r3 replies on 2/18/2019 7:50 am:
Thank you for sharing! I would concur that the mental process is paramount and can greatly encourage the physical. Hope that you and your friend have many more of life's simple yet greatly enjoyed pleasures! Thanks Again! XO

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